If some people are so hungry for a feeling of importance that they actually go insane to get it, imagine what miracle you and I can achieve by giving people honest appreciation this side of insanity.”
― Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People
1, Be kind to yourself
It includes look after my mental health and physical heath. Recently, I found that the power of self-affirmation. Morning, I will set up 10 mins to do self-affirmation and meditation. Nigh time, 10 minutes meditation will also help mind to come down.
From early this year, I began to write down dairy I found that it helps me to record so many thoughts and thinking. I didn’t want to go back a lot of negative memory. However, it is some part of life too and when I recorded some negative memory. It seemed that it was reflection and calm me down. It also encouraged me to think about what positive part of life. What kind of people should I focus on
2, Practice creativity,
My workmates gave me some old fabric from shop, there had a lot of small pieces of good, or old fabric. Some fabrics are so bright and looked like for wedding. Instead of leaving in box, I used some of fabric to create card. It became so amazing, beautiful. It was so simple and just use hot glue gun to glue it.
I made four cards recently. They are for Sam’s wedding, Niki and Lucy’s baby shower, Caroline and Josephine’s birthday, Sarah A birthday box. Becky’s best pair card. Julie’s sister heath recovers self-affirmation poster. From June 2022 and I began to send message or made handmade presents for some workmates. During the process, I can feel that I nearly forgot time and just enjoyed the process of making it.
I don’t know whether all these people will throw cards or not. I wish not. Because I tried to make as pretty as possible. It will hard for people to throw it. I also use handwriting to write down as long and as detailed possible. It will become meaningful for receiver.
It like healing process for my mental health. I feel that I received all kindness message or feedback with my open heart.
3, Receive kindness from others.
We always think kindness as giving, giving your energy, presents, attention. Actually, it always made me think about whether it worth to give kindness to anyone. My answer is No, and we only have 4000 weeks in our lifetime. Giving can be your time, your energy, your knowledge and your hand made gifts. I set some rules and will give a lot of kindness to the people
They are kind nature and good people.
They high integrity.
They are my very close friends and I used to think workmates just workmates till I began to build deep relationship with few of them. It is very interesting that I got along with one of young Australia girl very well regardless our age gap. She is very warm and genuine. I don’t mind helping her with my knowledge and experience if she is willing to get.
Real kindness and you need to both give and receive without reluctant in order to experience real connection. Dr Brene Brow says, until we can receive with a open heart, we are never really giving with a open heart.”
I always cherish kindness from one of my senior workmates. When I was so sick during Covid 19, and she will always ask me how is going and sent me message some days. When I experienced a accident workplace bull and I need wrote down some many pages to record the incidents. All these things made my mind mad sometimes, I sent to her one document about incident. She rang me directly and we chat for a while. It made me feel so good and feel your feeling be support no matter whether it was right or not.
For return, I cared of her too. I always reply back all her email. Gave a lot of praise and encouragement for her work. For me, I really cherish her friendship.
4, Assume people are genuinely trying their best
I used to send message to Kim and willing to interview her about renovation. I feel that we had same interests and in the past, I used to share some renovation tips and business with her. She never returns my team message and for a short while, it made me feel quite disappointed. But later, I changed the view and thought that maybe she was really busy for renovation or change her career in my work. Or she did not feel comfortable for me to join with her friendship circle. It is fine. The only purpose for me is to build good relationship with work colleague. Because I never knew when will be last year to work with J.
Photos: Thanks for my close friend Red to contribute her photos to me.
